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How to Talk to Your Kids
About Cell Phone Use



There has been a lot of talk about mobile phone safety, but it has largely focused on distraction while driving as well as the possibility that cell phone use might cause health problems.

But now there's another reason to be concerned. Mobile phones in Japan and Europe have been linked to harassment and sexual exploitation of both children and adults.


Talk to Your Kids

I'm not suggesting you ditch your cell phone. As a parent, you need to talk with your children about how to protect themselves from exploitation, bullying, and invasion of privacy, as well as an out-of-control phone bill.

A cell phone can be a great communications and safety tool. In addition to keeping up with friends, kids can also use it to check in with parents, respond to parents calls and phone for help in an emergency.


Putting the World in Children's Hands 

But there are some dangers associated with this technology. When you put a cell phone in children's hands, you're giving them access to the world and the world access to them, including when they're away from home and parental supervision. What's more, today's cell phones are not just mobile telephones. They're also Web browsers, instant messengers and e-mail terminals. In other words, just about everything you can do from an Internet-connected PC, you can also do from a cell phone.

Until recently most of the problems were related to "texting," but is changing. Most companies now offer phones with color displays, built-in digital cameras and the ability to instantly transmit photos from phone to phone, via e-mail or to Web sites. There are also phones that can record moving video.

What's more, cell phone companies are starting to roll out their higher-speed networks, which make it practical to download graphics, photographs and video along with sound and text. One company is even talking about experimenting with downloading aroma, though it's not clear whether this is something people will actually want.

A color screen means that your child can look at the same type of graphic content available on the Internet from home. A built-in digital camera means that your child can not only see inappropriate material, but can send it as well. That's my biggest concern. Kids -- and adults, for that matter -- need to be extremely cautious about the way they use this new technology, especially when it comes to sharing digital photos or movies. Pushing a few telephone buttons can send a child's image, phone number and mobile e-mail address to the wrong person. It’s even possible to use your cell phone to instantly post photos on the Web for all to see. Already, some gyms have banned cell phones in the locker room because of concerns about inappropriate photographs.

You should also be concerned by the fact that phones are phones. Predators cannot only send kids messages, but they can also call them to arrange meetings. Because kids can access the phone while they're away from home, they're particularly vulnerable because they are out of their parents’ reach. It's common practice in Europe for predators to groom a child on the Internet and then contact that child via cell phone to arrange a face-to-face meeting.

The user of a cell phone is not necessarily anonymous. Although it can be disabled, most cell phones have caller ID on by default. That means that when you call or send a text message to someone, you are giving that person your phone number, which he or she can use to make harassing calls as well as to send unwanted instant messages and e-mail. It's not uncommon for bullies to use cell phones to harass other kids and, tragically, it's not unheard of for children to be contacted on their cell phone by adult predators.


Bullies Packing Cell Phones 

Bullying by cell phone is becoming a major problem in the United Kingdom. A survey conducted by a British group found that "mobile phones appear to be the most commonly abused medium with 16% of young people saying they’d received bullying or threatening text messages, followed by 7% who had been harassed in Internet chat-rooms and 4% via e-mail." If your child experiences harassing phone calls or text messages, call the provider to see about getting the number changed.

There is another potential problem. The Federal Communications Commission has mandated that phones be equipped with "geo location" systems designed to make it possible for others to pinpoint exactly where the phone is located. The main purpose of this system is to enable 911 operators to locate cell phone callers in case of an emergency, but there also are planned commercial uses of this technology to allow businesses to offer location-based products and services to cell phone users. While privacy safeguards will be built in, they can also be defeated. As these services become available, children and adults need to learn how to control them so that they are not used for the wrong purposes.

As if all this is not enough, there is the issue of cost. Unless they are careful, kids can easily spend $100 or more a month on cell phone fees. Many plans have free nights and weekends, but make sure your child knows the company’s definition of "night," which sometimes starts as late as 9 p.m. Also, there is typically a charge for both incoming and outgoing text messages, Web access, and special features such as downloading games, screen savers and ring tones. 

One way to control costs is to get your children a pre-paid service. When they are out of money, their phone stops working, other than to call 911. Another is to talk with your provider about package deals. At the very least, talk with your kids about using their phone responsibly.


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